11: Honoring God's Order

Honoring God's order as a husband, especially if you're drawing from 1 Corinthians 11 and its headship framework, means living out your role in a way that reflects Jesus relationship to the church authority paired with love and sacrifice. Here's how that can play out practically:


Lead with Love: Ephesians 5:25-28 ties headship to Jesus example, loving your wife as He loved the church, giving Himself up for it. That's not just words; it's putting her needs first, listening, supporting, even when it costs you time or pride. It's less about barking orders and more about serving her good.


Spiritual Leadership: Take the reins on faith in the home. Pray with her, read scripture together, set a tone of godliness. 1 Corinthians 11:3 puts you under Jesus headship, so you're not a lone king, but a conduit of His will. Model that dependence on God; it shows her you're not making it up as you go.


Honor Her Role: If you see her head covering (or submission) as part of this order, affirm it. Praise her for it, not as a power trip, but as a teammate honoring God with you. Peter says to give her honor as a co-heir in grace (1 Peter 3:7), respect her strengths, her voice, her part in the dance.


Protect and Provide: Headship carries a duty to shield, physically, emotionally, spiritually. That's Old Testament vibes too, like Boaz with Ruth. Handle the tough stuff, stress, threats, whatever, so she feels secure under your care, not exposed.


Stay Accountable: You're under Jesus, per Paul. Keep your own life clean, flee temptation, own your failures. She'll trust your lead more if she sees you bowing to God, not just flexing on her.

It's a balance, authority without tyranny, love without weakness.

Practical ways a wife can demonstrate to her husband that she is honoring God's order,particularly within the framework of headship from 1 Corinthians 11 and other scriptures:


Willing Submission: She can show it by trusting your leadership, even when it's tough. Ephesians 5:22-24 frames this as submitting "as to the Lord", not grudgingly, but with faith. If you decide on something after discussion, her backing you without undermining signals she respects your role.


Head Covering: If you've both landed on this from 1 Corinthians 11:5-10, her wearing it during prayer, worship or in public is a visible sign. It's her saying, "I'm honoring the authority structure you're leading us in", tying it to Paul's argument about creation and angels.
 1 Corinthians 11:7 A man ought not to cover his head, since he is the image and glory of God, but the woman is the glory of man.

Words of Respect: She can build you up, telling you she values your guidance or appreciates your efforts to follow God. Proverbs 31:23 hints at a wife whose support elevates her husband's standing. A simple "I'm proud of how you lead us" goes far.



Teamwork in the Home: By managing her sphere, whether kids, hospitality, or whatever you've divvied up, she frees you to focus on yours. Genesis 2:18 calls her a helper; her stepping up shows she's all in on the partnership, not just coasting.


Quiet Strength: 1 Peter 3:4 talks about a "gentle and quiet spirit" as precious to God. She can disagree or advise without nagging or defiance, proving she's submitting not out of fear but conviction. It's strength that doesn't compete.


Faithful Support: Praying for you, standing firm when you're shaky, or encouraging your spiritual growth shows she sees you as her head under Jesus. It's her mirroring the church's loyalty to Jesus (Ephesians 5:24).

A woman who decides of her own accord to wear a head covering to honor God's order shows wisdom, whoever finds such a woman has received favor from God.


It's not about her erasing herself, but about her actively choosing to reflect the order of God that you both seek.