Open Letter To My Ex-wife & Husband

(For privacy reasons I will not mention their names)

I know the past has been a storm of pain, darkness, and loss, more than words can ever capture. I've been broken too, shattered by the weight of what happened to our son and the years that followed. But I'm writing to you now not out of my own strength, but out of something greater, something that found me when I had nothing left. I want you to know there's hope, even now, for both of you. Not because of who we are, but because of who Jesus the Messiah is.


I was lost, raised without God, crushed by my mother's death, and then destroyed by our son's murder. I spiraled into a pit where my body failed, my mind collapsed, and my soul and spirit died. But on December 23, 2023, Jesus the Messiah came to me. I didn't seek Him, because I did not know Him, I searched for healing and for the truth, and because I was searching for the truth, He found me. Two weeks later, I was baptized in water, born again, and given a new life. John 3:16 became my lifeline: "For God so loved the world, that He gave His only Son, that whoever believes in Him should not perish but have eternal life." I believed, and He began to heal what was broken, my heart, my body, my soul and spirit, even my hope, joy and finances.
 As followers of Jesus the Messiah, we are all a work in progress, growing stronger each day by His power, not our own.

I'm not here to condemn you. I forgive you because God has also forgiven me. What I know is that Jesus offers something no one else can: forgiveness, restoration, and peace. Romans 8:28 says, "And we know that for those who love God all things work together for good, for those who are called according to His purpose." Even in the deepest pain, even after the worst choices, God can turn ashes into something new. I've seen it in my own life and I know our son is safe with Him, where "death shall be no more" (Revelation 21:4).

You don't have to stay where you are. Jesus said, "In the world you will have trouble. But take heart, I have overcome the world" (John 16:33). He overcame my despair, and He can overcome whatever chains hold you. The good news is simple but powerful: "If you confess with your mouth that Jesus is Lord and believe in your heart that God raised Him from the dead, you will be saved" (Romans 10:9). That's it, repent, believe, and let Him in. He's real, alive, and waiting.
Your story isn't over. Let it begin again with Jesus the Messiah.


I've written to you about the hope Jesus brought into my broken life, and now I want to share something else He's taught me, something I believe He offers you too: forgiveness and the true meaning of love. These aren't just words to me anymore, they're the lifeline that pulled me out of darkness. I pray they can reach you where you are.

Forgiveness isn't easy. After losing our son, after all the pain, I carried a weight that crushed me, anger, grief, and a heart that couldn't let go. But Jesus showed me a different way. In Matthew 6:14-15, He says, "For if you forgive other people when they sin against you, your heavenly Father will also forgive you. But if you do not forgive others their sins, your Father will not forgive your sins." I had to face my own sins first, my failures, my bitterness, and ask God to forgive me. When I did, He lifted that burden, and I began to see others through His eyes, not mine. Colossians 3:13 became my guide: "Bear with each other and forgive one another if any of you has a grievance against someone. Forgive as the Lord forgave you."


For you, forgiveness starts with God. No matter what's happened, His mercy & grace are bigger. Ephesians 1:7 promises, " In Him we have redemption through His blood, the forgiveness of sins, in accordance with the riches of God's grace." He doesn't measure our past; He sees our hearts. If you turn to Him, confess, and seek Him, He'll forgive you, not because you earn it, but because He loves you. And when you know that forgiveness, you can begin to release the chains that bind you.


Then there's love, what it really means. The world twists it, but the Bible is clear. 1 Corinthians 13:4-7 says, "Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres." This isn't just a feeling; it's how God loves us, and how He calls us to love others. I didn't know this love growing up, but Jesus showed it to me when He saved me.

God's love for you hasn't stopped. Romans 5:8 says, "But God shows His love for us in that while we were still sinners, Jesus the Messiah died for us." You don't have to clean up first; He meets you where you are. And when you accept that love, it changes everything, how you see yourselves, each other, and even the past.
 His love is real. You can find forgiveness and know this love. Jesus waits with open arms. "If we confess our sins, He is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness" (1 John 1:9). Let Him in, repent, believe, and receive. He'll show you what love truly is, and through it, you can find peace.

We are all sinners, every one of us. I don't say this to point fingers, but to stand with you in the truth that changed me. It's not about who's worse or better, it's about who we all are before God.
 The Bible doesn't mince words. Romans 3:23 says, "For all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God." I felt that in my bones, growing up without Him, chasing my own way, and crumbling under life's blows. My anger, my despair, my failures, they were sin, pulling me from God. But it's not just me. Ecclesiastes 7:20 puts it plain: "Surely there is not a righteous man on earth who does good and never sins." We've all stumbled, me, you, everyone. Our son's death broke us in different ways, but the root is the same: we're human, frail, and lost without God.

I used to think I could fix myself, but I was wrong. Romans 5:12 explains why: "Therefore, just as sin came into the world through one man, and death through sin, and so death spread to all men because all sinned." It's in us from the start, a shadow we can't shake on our own. I see it in my past, my bitterness, my collapse and I know it's not unique to me. We've all hurt, we've all failed, we've all turned away from God at some point. 1 John 1:8 warns, "If we say we have no sin, we deceive ourselves, and the truth is not in us." I was blind to that once, but not anymore.


Here's the hope, though, the part that saved me. Romans 6:23 says, "For the wages of sin is death, but the free gift of God is eternal life in Jesus the Messiah our Lord." We're all sinners, yes, but Jesus steps in where we can't. I didn't deserve it, my life was a mess, my heart a ruin, but He came anyway. John 3:17 promises, "For God did not send His Son into the world to condemn the world, but in order that the world might be saved through Him." That's for me, for you, for all of us.
 You are not alone in this. I'm a sinner too, and I found mercy and grace. 1 John 1:9 says, "If we confess our sins, He is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness." That's the door, repent, believe, and let Jesus in. He doesn't rank our sins; He washes them all away. I'm walking again, breathing again, because He saw me as a sinner and loved me still. He sees you too. We've all fallen short, but we don't have to stay there. "The saying is trustworthy and deserving of full acceptance, that Jesus the Messiah came into the world to save sinners, of whom I am the foremost" (1 Timothy 1:15). If He saved me, He can save you. Your story's not over, let Jesus the Messiah write the next chapter.

I also want to talk about something that weighs on my heart, something eternal. Life isn't just about what we face here, it's about where we end up forever. Heaven and Hell are real, and the choices we make now decide which one we'll know for eternity. I've felt that truth grip me, and I can't keep it to myself.
 The Bible lays it out starkly. Jesus said in Matthew 7:13-14, "Enter through the narrow gate. For wide is the gate and broad is the road that leads to destruction, and many enter through it. But small is the gate and narrow the road that leads to life, and only a few find it." 


There's a choice, two paths, two destinations. I was on the wide road, lost in despair, until He showed me the narrow one. It's not about being good enough, it's about choosing Him. Hell is forever. Jesus warned in Matthew 25:46, "Then they will go away to eternal punishment, but the righteous to eternal life." I think about our son, he's in Heaven, safe, because of God's mercy. But for us still here, the stakes are high. Revelation 20:15 says, "And if anyone's name was not found written in the book of life, he was thrown into the lake of fire." That's not a threat, it's a reality.

Heaven, though, that's the promise. John 14:2-3 records Jesus saying, "My Father's house has many rooms, if that were not so, would I have told you that I am going there to prepare a place for you? And if I go and prepare a place for you, I will come back and take you to be with me that you also may be where I am." It's eternal life, joy, no more tears. I know I'll see our son there, not because I'm perfect, but because I chose Jesus. Romans 10:13 assures, "For everyone who calls on the name of the Lord will be saved." Everyone, including you.

This is the choice: eternity with Jesus or eternity without Him. Deuteronomy 30:19 echoes it: "This day I call the heavens and the earth as witnesses against you that I have set before you life and death, blessings and curses. Now choose life, so that you and your children may live." I chose life when I confessed Jesus as Lord and believed God raised Him from the dead. It's not too late for you. Hebrews 3:15 urges, "Today, if you hear his voice, do not harden your hearts as you did in the rebellion." Time's not promised, my mother's death, our son's loss, taught me that. I was broken, a sinner, headed nowhere good. Jesus found me, and now I'm bound for Heaven. You can be too. Repent, believe, choose Him, because forever is forever. "Seek the Lord while he may be found; call upon him while He is near" (Isaiah 55:6). He's near now, waiting for you.

We are no longer in contact and I have no emotional feelings for you anymore whatsoever, but I hope and pray to God that He will find a way for you to read this letter and heal your heart. The only reason why I am able to act like this is because after 10 years of long suffering God has given me a new heart, forgiveness, mercy, grace, strength, power, spiritual gifts, love, a sound mind, rest, peace, hope, joy and His Spirit, God has also shown me something you wouldn't wish on your worst enemy. All glory goes to God and I hope for you that God will do even bigger and better things for you and your husband. With God all things are possible!

He who lives in sin builds his own prison.